Strap-On Dildos & Harnesses
Strap-ons and harnesses are just what they sound like: a dildo attached to a harness or other strap-on device that one partner wears to penetrate another. These toys aren't just for women having sex with women; all kinds of twosomes can enjoy the power-shifting and role-playing that accompanies play with removable dildos. Women often get a thrill from penetrating their male partners, and men who have trouble achieving or maintaining an erection find strap-ons useful for pleasing their partners. Some men enjoy masturbating while penetrating their partners, some women use strap-ons to anally or vaginally penetrate their lovers. These toys enable all kinds of flexibility with sexual play -- we highly recommend that everyone experiment with a strap-on or harness once in his or her sexual life.
Harnesses and strap-ons can utilize regular dildos, but there are also ones specifically designed to work with a harness. Select any kind of unit that appeals to you, but make sure you get one with a flared base. Otherwise, your toy will slip right out of its holster. You should also keep size in mind; the harness usually cuts an inch or so off your dildo. Made from sturdy leather, flexible vinyl or elastic, strap-ons or harnesses come in three basic shapes:
- Thigh Harness This harness straps to your upper thigh, holding the dildo steady at crotch level. People seem to really enjoy the flexibility and comfort of this model, probably because it leaves the wearer's genitals free for manipulation.
- G-string or Panty Harness Shaped like a G-string or pair of strappy panties, this harness slips on like underwear and positions the dildo directly over the wearer's pubic bone. It's a sturdy construction that many women enjoy for the sheer stability and power associated with wearing it. Not a great option for most men, however, or for those who detest the feel of a G-string or thong between their buttocks.
- Shorts Harness Resembling a pair of bicycle pants, these "shorts" have a front cutout for a dildo. Extremely comfortable and stable, this type of harness is very popular. The only real drawback is that is completely covers the genitals, making simultaneous digital manipulation difficult.
Whichever type of harness or strap-on dildo you choose, remember to talk to your partner before you experiment. While it's a good idea to do so before any new kind of sex play, your partner may be particularly surprised if you come prancing into the bedroom with a dildo strapped to your thigh. Play it safe and make sure both parties are receptive to the idea.
